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a book and found it helpful.
Lament For A Son
by Nicholas Wolterstorff  
very insightful and profound, helpful

How To Survive the Loss of a Child
Dr. Catherine M. Sanders
The author is a clinical psychologist who lost her son in a
water skiing accident. She went on to do research on loss and
found that loss of a child really stood out as even more
overwhelming and significant than other losses. The book
deals with different aspects of grief like different general
stages and emotions and ways to mourn that promote healing.

Beyond Tears, living after losing a Child
Erin Mitchell
The author interviewed nine women who became friends after
loss of a teen or young adult child. Includes the story of each
loss and chapters on the different ways they dealt with issues
such as the first year, holidays, etc.

Guiding Your child through Grief
Mary Ann Emswiler and James P. Emswiler
Very good. James became the single father of three preteen
and teenage children when his wife died suddenly and
unexpectedly. He eventually went on to remarry and start The
Cove, a center for grieving children and their families in
Connecticut. Loaded with good information and practical tips
for parents of grieving children. There is a chapter on long term
effects of childhood grief and one for step parents and
families. There is also information for teachers of grieving
children in one of the appendices

When the Bough Breaks; Forever After the Death of a Son or
Judith R. Bernstein, Ph.D.
She lost her 25 year old son to cancer in 1987 and, seven
years later, was disconcerted by the concept she read in a
professional journal that grief should only last for a year or two.
She interviewed 55 parents who were 5 to 10 years out from
their losses to get a better understanding of what we all
know-there is no endpoint. Filled with direct quotes
that reveal these parent's experiences, perspectives and

The Worst Loss: How Families Heal from the Death of a Child
Barbara D. Rosof.
This is very good both for parents early in their grief or far out
from it. It is well written and includes discussions of acute and
long terms issues, effects on marriage and remaining children
and special issues associated with certain causes of death.

I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye
Brook Noel & Parmeal D. Blair, Ph.D.
Deals with sudden loss of any relationship. Includes chapters
on the first weeks, notes for helpers in the first
weeks, things we experience as we grieve, special types of
loss (sibs, parents etc), and lots of other people's stories.

Don't Kiss Them Good-Bye
Allison Dubois
Common Threads of Teenage Grief
By Teens Who Know &Janet Tyson.
This book is written by a school counselor who has worked with
grieving teens at school. It does include several stories written by
teens (a few parent lost parents, two lost sibs, and one boy lost
several friends to gang related violence) but is really more for
parents and other adults who are helping a grieving teen.

From My Son's Garden; a Personal Story of Growth and Healing
after the Loss of a Child
Barbara Hahn Greene.
Written by a woman who lost her 16 year old son. She tells the
story of her first three years and about the memorial garden that
she planted and tended during those years. The profits from the
book go to a scholarship
fund for kids in their town in her son's name.

First You Die
by Marie Levine
She lost her adult son, an only child, a sudden accidental death,
but it isn't just about an only child, it's about living the

The Empty Room; Surviving the Loss of a Brother or Sister at
Any Age
Elizabeth DeVita Raeburn
Written by the now grown younger sister of the boy in the bubble.
He moved from their home to a hospital and lived there for years
before he finally died. Explores aspects unique to sibling loss
and discusses the
importance of the "story", that telling your own story and reading
or hearing others stories help heal. It is beautifully written and her
story, as well as many others, is woven throughout the book.

After You Lose Someone you Love
Amy Allie & David Dennison

Creating a Living Legacy
Tony James Manus

Facing Changes, Coming together and Falling Apart in The Teen
Donna OToole

You are not alone; Teen Talk about Life After the loss of A
Lynn B Hughes

The Grieving Teen
Helen Fitzgerald
Covers a lot, including topics like when someone is dying they
might not need, but has a good table of contents so it is easy to
pick and choose what applies to you. Reading level and content
best for upper grades, would be too advanced for most tweens
and early teens.

Healing Your Grieving Heart for Teens
Alan Wolfelt
Shorter and more to the point-a topic a page type book with
suggestions of things to do to help.

When a Friend Dies: A Book for Teens About Grieving & Healing
Marilyn E. Gootman, Ed.D.
Lots of quotes regarding the many feelings that are common in
grief and ideas of good ways to handle grief. Would be good for
both younger and older teens. It has a short list of other books
recommended for teens.
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